By Eugene Ora
Nollywood actress Damilola Adegbite
says she has noticed a shift in Nigeria’s dating culture, with younger men
increasingly showing open interest in women who are older than them.
Adegbite, 41, made the observation during a recent episode
of her podcast, published on her YouTube channel, where she reflected on
changing attitudes towards women and age.
She said women were once made to feel that reaching a
certain age meant they should quietly leave the dating scene, while younger
women were expected to receive most of the attention.
According to the actress, that attitude appears to be
changing, with women in their late thirties and early forties increasingly
attracting younger men who are willing to express their interest without
hesitation.
Adegbite illustrated the change through the biblical image
of a rejected stone becoming the cornerstone, suggesting that women once overlooked
because of their age could now be seen as highly desirable.
“Maybe we should just say the older woman who was once
overlooked has become the premium package,” she said, using the phrase to
describe what she sees as a reversal in dating preferences.
She said the change had become particularly noticeable when
younger men approached women aged 38, 40 or 42 and made their intentions clear,
rather than treating their age as a reason to keep their distance.
Adegbite said such confidence could itself be attractive,
particularly when a younger man openly tells an older woman that he likes her,
leaving her surprised by the directness of his approach.
“A younger man will see a woman who is 38, 40 or 42 and say
boldly, ‘I like you.’ And you are sitting there thinking, ‘Sorry, wait, are we
doing this?’” she said.
She added that the younger man might simply look directly at
the woman and respond, “Yes, we are,” a confidence she believes can make the
attention even more appealing.
Her comments reflect a wider conversation around changing
expectations in relationships, particularly the assumptions that women become
less desirable as they grow older while younger women automatically dominate
romantic attention.
Adegbite’s remarks were presented as her personal
observation of the dating scene, rather than as evidence of a measured
nationwide trend among Nigerian men and women.
Nollywood actress, Damilola Adegbite has claimed
that she has noticed a new trend in the Nigerian dating scene, where younger
men are increasingly finding older women more attractive.
Speaking on her recent podcast, posted on her
YouTube channel, Adegbite said society used to make women feel like they should
exit the dating scene once they crossed a certain age, but that is now
changing, as younger men now prefer older women.
Using the biblical analogy of the rejected stone
becoming the chief cornerstone, the 41-year-old movie star said older women who
were once overlooked have now become the “premium packages.”
She said, “When society made older women feel like
once we have crossed a certain age, you should basically leave the dating
market quietly. Meanwhile, the younger girls were supposedly getting all the
attention. But now, the tables are turning.
“Honestly, I think Psalm 118:22 was onto something.
You know that scripture about the stone which the builders rejected becoming
the cornerstone? Maybe we should just say the older woman who was once
overlooked has become the premium package.
“But seriously, why is this happening? A younger
man will see a woman who is 38, 40 or 42 and say boldly, ‘I like you.’ And you
are sitting there thinking, ‘Sorry, wait, are we doing this?’ And he is looking
you dead in the eye like, ‘Yes, we are.’ And I think that confidence is
attractive.”
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